Seeing your child's ileostomy for the first time may be upsetting. Many parents feel guilty or that it is their fault when their child gets ill and needs this operation.

Parents also worry about how their child will be accepted now and later in life.

This is a difficult transition. But, if you are relaxed and positive about your child's ileostomy from the beginning, your child will have a much easier time with it. Talking with friends, family members, or a mental health counselor may help you.

Your child will need help and support. Begin by having them help you empty and change their pouch. After some time, older children will be able to gather supplies and change and empty their own pouch. Even a young child can learn to empty the pouch by themselves.

Be prepared for some trial and error in taking care of your child's ileostomy.

It is normal to have some problems with your child's ileostomy. Some common problems are:

• Your child may have trouble with some foods. Some foods may lead to loose stools (diarrhea) and some can increase gas production. Talk to your health care provider about food choices that will help avoid these problems.
• Your child may have skin problems near the ileostomy.
• Your child's pouch may leak or get messy.

Help your child understand how important it is to take good care of their ileostomy, and to clean up the bathroom after ileostomy care.

Children do not like to be different from their friends and classmates. Your child may have many difficult emotions, including frustration and embarrassment.

You may see some changes in your child's behavior at first. Sometimes teenagers have a harder time accepting their ileostomy than younger children. Try to keep a positive attitude and use humor when it fits the situation. You being open and natural will help your child's behavior stay positive.

Help your child learn how to handle problems with their ileostomy on their own.

Help your child decide who they want to talk to about their ileostomy. Talk with your child about what they will say. Be firm, calm, and open. It can help to do a role play, where you pretend you are one of the people your child has decided to tell about their ileostomy. Ask questions that person might ask. This will help your child prepare to talk with other people.

Your child should feel that you understand what it is like to have an ileostomy. Help them learn to take care of themselves, and let them know they will be able to live a full life.

When problems do happen, stay calm and ask for help from your child's provider.

Be flexible with your child as they adjust to school and everyday situations.

When your child returns to school, have a plan to deal with problems or emergencies. If your child knows what to do when there is leakage, it will help them avoid embarrassing situations.

Your child should be able to take part in recess and sports, go camping and have other overnight trips, and do all other school and after-school activities.

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Updated by: Jenifer K. Lehrer, MD, Gastroenterologist, Philadelphia, PA. Review provided by VeriMed Healthcare Network. Also reviewed by David C. Dugdale, MD, Medical Director, Brenda Conaway, Editorial Director, and the A.D.A.M. Editorial team.